Hello Friends!
In the quiet aftermath of loss, as we stand amidst the remnants of what was, the future can seem like a distant shore—vast, uncharted, and intimidating. It’s not uncommon to find ourselves clinging to barriers that prevent us from moving forward. Today, I want to talk about the five common excuses or blocks that can keep us anchored in place, and how we might gently release them.
- “I’m Not Ready to Move On” The idea of ‘moving on’ can feel like we’re leaving our loved ones behind. But embracing the future isn’t about forgetting; it’s about carrying their memory with us as we step into new experiences. Permit yourself to take small steps at your own pace.
- “I Feel Guilty for Living” Guilt can be a heavy shackle, binding us to the past. It whispers that enjoying life is a betrayal. Yet, our loved ones would want us to live fully. Honor them by allowing yourself moments of happiness without guilt.
- “I’m Afraid of Forgetting Them” There’s a fear that if we change our routines or create new memories, we’ll somehow forget the ones we’ve lost. But our hearts have an infinite capacity to remember. Trust in the enduring power of love to keep their memory alive.
- “Others Expect Me to Grieve Longer” Sometimes, it’s the perceived expectations of others that hold us back. We worry about what people will think if we laugh too soon or embark on a new chapter. Remember, there is no timeline for grief. Live according to your inner compass, not the expectations of others.
- “I Don’t Know Who I Am Anymore” Loss can shatter our sense of identity. We become ‘the bereaved,’ and it can be hard to imagine who we are beyond that label. But you are still you, with dreams, passions, and potential. Rediscover yourself through new interests, friendships, and goals.
As we acknowledge these barriers, let’s also recognize our strength and resilience. We can embrace the future, find joy, and create a life that reflects the love we carry for those who are no longer with us.
If you’re looking for support as you navigate these barriers, I invite you to join our community. Together, we can share our journeys, offer encouragement, and celebrate the steps we take toward a future filled with hope and possibility.
Visit melissahull.com to learn more, and remember, you’re not alone in this journey.
With warmth and understanding, Melissa
